With spring comes the anticipation of prom season for thousands of parents and teens. Formal attire is purchased, hair appointments are scheduled and arrangements to take pictures at a unique location are made in preparation for the big day.
Amidst all the excitement, do not lose the opportunity to talk to your teen about the pressures they may face on prom night. Our culture teaches young adults to perceive prom night as an opportunity to compromise their beliefs and boundaries. Because of this, building up your teen's strength of character prior to prom and having a conversation with them about the choices they may face is important.
Ask your teen...
- "What will you be doing after prom?"
- "Who will you be with that evening?"
- "How can you prepare mentally for the unexpected situations that may arise at prom?"
- "What boundaries have you made for yourself going into prom?"
Tell your teen...
- "If you find yourself in a situation that is uncomfortable, do not hesitate to call someone (mother, father or sibling) and we will pick you up no matter the circumstance."
- "It does not matter how much money your date may have spent on your ticket and corsage, you do not owe them anything. They have the privilege of taking you on a date. It is ok to say no."
At the end of the day your teen needs to know that they are loved and that they have a choice. They need to know that not everyone is 'doing it' and that you believe they have the ability to go against what culture says and say 'no'.